Friday, June 15, 2012

FFOT: parents of entitled children

I've been griping for a long time about the way my students feel entitled to excellent grades without putting in the work.  It gets on my nerves something awful, and I know I'm not the only one.  Most real teachers--the ones that care about imparting knowledge, rather than just the paycheck, benefits, and the summer vacation--hate that attitude, too.  Why else would one have given a commencement address telling students that they're not that special, after all? 

Whose fault is it?  It's not the teachers' fault: the kids arrive in our class with the entitlement mentality already in place.  It's not the child-rearing experts' fault: they don't raise the kids, they just try to justify their own jobs by coming up with new theories.

It's the parents.  Parents are the ones who are so blinded by love for their little sprogs that they buy into the self-esteem boosting BS the "experts" shovel.  Parents are the ones who seem to feel that their child's "special snowflake" perfection illustrates just what wonderful parents they are.  And when all that is pushed aside, parents are the ones that just don't want to deal with the meltdowns when their kid loses a game, doesn't earn a good grade after being told how smart and perfect they are, or doesn't get that toy they wanted.

I love my kids dearly.  I love them too much to let them turn into selfish, self-centered, irritating little entitled monsters.  That means I have to be the bad guy, sometimes.  No, I don't like it, but that is what being a parent--an adult--is about.

It's why I don't like most kids I see/meet out in public: most of the parents either are afraid of harming their delicate little children's delicate little egos, or they don't want to be bothered with doing the hard work, and dealing with the fallout of "no."  Or both.


Well-intentioned, selfish, lazy parents.  They can fuck off. 

4 comments:

  1. This journal I'm formatting an article for, with its incredibly detailed and picky expectations just to SUBMIT an article, can FTFO. They can double FTFO if they reject this article after I spent hours formatting.

    And while I'm thinking of it? The journals in my field of study can FTFO for not having common formatting requirements. So if this journal rejects this and I have to submit elsewhere, I'll have to do this all again.

    I don't get why they don't just say "Use reasonable formatting and then worry about the details after we accept." It's not like I'm submitting it through some shiny new software that will choke on the paragraph formatting being done a bit differently from expected...

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