Monday, January 27, 2014


A very close friend posted something to her Facebook page last night, something that prompted my sluggish brain to start thinking about it: "Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; but remember what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for."

As I said, it got me thinking. 

If you don't desire what you don't have, you have no goals.  Nothing to work toward.  Yes, sometimes wanting what you don't have can be destructive; however, without that desire for more, you have no reason to do more than the minimum to live.

I understand that there is a subset of young men that decide to do just that--the absolute minimum--and I understand their reluctance to work to earn more.  I understand totally: marriage is a dangerous gamble that can wipe out a life's work rewards, and the harder you work, the more the government takes to support those who believe it's their life's calling to be a deadbeat.  I know a lot of that bunch are fairly content with their lives, and many work just enough to fund their next trip. 

I cannot imagine it being anything other than an incredibly lonely existence.  Almost pointless, too. 

So, set yourself goals: real, attainable ones.  My goal is to get through this semester.  And to support Odysseus through college.  Those are short-term goals, I'll grant you (though the one with Odysseus being back in classes is sort of long term, and sort of the first part of a longer term goals), but with two kids, short-term is all I can do right now. 

But it still gives me something to work towards. 


  1. There is a difference between obsessing over what you don't have to the point that you can't enjoy what you do have. Then there is being so non-driven that you never leave your parents house. Neither is a good place to be. Unfortunately, it seems that there are a lot of those two extremes and fewer and fewer of the middle that set the kinds of goals you speak of.

    1. It certainly does seem that way, doesn't it? Makes me kinda sad for the world.