Where's the struggle?

Simple, sweethearts: ditch the men. Ditch the religion. They're what puts you in danger.

Pretty much every Muslim man is likely to be violent toward you. They kill you if you complain.

A good Christian boy, on the other hand, might hit you. (The vast majority won't--most Christians respect women.) Then, you go to the police, have him arrested and sent to jail. He might hit you again if he gets out and is still mad at you (and you haven't had the sense God gave a goose and gone and bought a gun), but he likely won't behead you.

You can be a traditional Christian wife and mother without fear that your husband will kill you if another man sees your hair. Your husband can still be the head of the household, and you can continue not to think for yourself. Most women actually don't--otherwise, radical feminism would never have taken hold.

You don't have to be a total whore, ladies, even if you ditch Islam as a bad bet.

Again, don't struggle with the dichotomy between radical Islamofacism and Western freedom. Ditch Islam. Ditch the Islamofacist men.