So. We've been having some issues with the imp. Major boundary pushing issues. Yes, he's closing in on eight, so it is to be expected. That does not make it any less infuriating.
Several weeks ago, he got some of his Transformers toys confiscated. One was a complicated blue Corvette. That one was the core of the issue: two weeks ago, he'd earned it back through good behavior. All he had to do was wait until Friday evening.
He didn't.
Instead, he got the step-ladder step-stool, got it down, and put another the same color in its place. And then, he lied about it.
That got both toys put in the trash, and the trash taken out to the dumpster.
Two mornings later, the imp has a Transformer--playing with it on the couch while watching Transformers. I'd slept in, assuming (like an idiot) that the kids were trustworthy. He told me Daddy had gotten it down for him, and the pixie told me the truth: that he'd gone outside, dug through the dumpster for the bag it was in, and pulled it out.
That. That got him in really big trouble. He got banned from TV for the rest of the day, got all of his Transformers toys taken away from him until school starts, and got him banned from watching Transformers until school starts. And then that got delayed, because he started nagging us about it.
Yesterday morning, he snuck out of his room a little before five in the morning (against the rules--they're not allowed to get up and stay up until six at the earliest), found the remotes and turned on the TV (also against the rules--they're not allowed to do that until after Odysseus leaves for work around half past seven), and watched an episode of Transformers: Robots in Disguise on Netflix (which we only found out about by checking the history). When confronted, he lied and denied it.
If he hadn't deliberately disobeyed, then lied about it, he'd have only been banned from TV for the day, like his sister was.
I also told him that the next time he lied to me at all, he'd lose all his blocks, and all of his wood rails.
Guess what got confiscated this morning?
Going by his record, he's going to end up with nothing but his bed, desk, books, lamp, dresser, and clothes in his room within the next two weeks.
I so don't need this to deal with right now.
12 minutes ago
Someone needs to learn about the taste of soap and the sting of a belt for their own safety.
ReplyDeleteThat's kind of last resort. I thought he'd learned this three years ago, but naw. Time to test the boundaries to see if they've changed since then (he's just about to turn eight). We're going to take EVERYTHING away first, and continually reiterate that lying is NOT acceptable, and is NEVER acceptable, unless he's trying to avoid hurting a peer's feelings.
DeleteGotta agree with Daddy Hawk... sigh
ReplyDeleteI suspect it'll get to that point, after we've taken all his stuff...
DeleteI don't trust small children to behave--they are, almost by definition, selfish and amoral little savages. It's our jobs as parents to instill values and civilization into them.
Like I said earlier: he *had* learned this three years ago. He's testing boundaries, I think. He's finding out that the boundaries are still there, and will be happier and more secure for it.
I just hope I can get us all through this sanity intact... ;)