My second to youngest aunt is picking on the youngest, trying to (and succeeding in) drive the youngest out of the church congregation they are both members of. The youngest aunt recently escaped a very badly physically abusive marriage, and is suffering memory problems and PTSD from repeated blows to the head. She's applied for disability, and I think she deserves and needs the help.
The second to youngest aunt, her immediate elder sister, is very much against the youngest aunt getting disability. Says she should just suck it up and get a job.
And the church is turning on my youngest aunt. Somehow, she's a sinner that they want nothing to do with because she's a victim.
Disclaimer, here: that aunt doesn't have a job. Doesn't have a driver's license. Doesn't do anything except sit on her butt during the week, then expect the aunt that has a job to pick her up so that she can get away from her disabled husband (upon whose pension she's living) on the weekend. The only reason she's treating her baby sister this way is because she's not getting the attention. She is a vile, vicious, backbiting bitch, and I am done with her. I will not reward behavior like that from my kids--why the fuck should I put up with it from a nominal adult?
In any case, I've been thinking about what I want to do for Christmas for my family. I'm thinking I'm going to get my youngest aunt something nice, something fun. I'll have to think on what to put into a "movie night" type basket for her.
My second to youngest aunt--the shrew--is really on my shit list. I think nothing will say that clearer than getting her something that I know she's going to find distasteful, and including a sharp message with it. Something like a bottle of honey whiskey to sweeten that sour, bitter disposition, and maybe relax her into a bit more of a tolerant state of mind. Since she disapproves of any type of alcohol--even red wine, like the doctors prescribed to her husband to try to improve his heart health just a bit--that should do the trick.
What do y'all think? Should I do it, or is it just a waste of good whiskey?
(I know, I know--get on your grading HH. No more using blogging as a procrastination method.)
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People that love attention, and embrace drama with relish, suffer when they're deprived of any.
ReplyDeleteIgnore her, don't even send a card, and do what you can for the aunt that suffers enough without the shallow judgement of those too willing to call themselves Christians.
You're probably right. I'll probably share the idea with my mother to see if it gets horrified giggles, and gets me told how horrible a person I am (while she's still giggling).
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ReplyDeleteI can hear that honey whiskey in your voice while reading that post.
I agree with Jess. Leave her alone and concentrate on making your youngest aunt's life a little better for a moment.
Hey! I only had two doses! And it was for *medicinal* purposes! Really!
DeleteUpon further thought, I agree with you both. Definitely a waste of good whiskey, and she's dumb enough she wouldn't get the point.
What goes around, comes around. Sadly, 'the shrew' will get hers. Ignore her, it's a waste of time and she doesn't deserve any attention, good or bad, from you. Put all of that negativity to her into positive attention to the younger one. She needs your support.
ReplyDeleteI'm trying, Sharon.
DeleteThe church is siding with the shrew? Jesus wept. No, I mean that literally. This is NOT what He meant. The shrew is being a Pharisee....or worse than such. It doesn't matter what your past is when you're in church; what matters is that you're there now and you're trying to make a new start. Dangit, it's NOT that hard to understand.
ReplyDeleteI side with those who say, "Pretend she isn't related to you and don't send her anything." Not just because anything you send would be wasting your money and your time, but ticking off the shrew will only feed her sense of drama and give her another target to spew her bile against.
I hope the youngest aunt finds some peace.
I suspect that the Pharisee would be far more pleasant to spend time with than that particular aunt.
DeleteYou could smother her with a pillow and then say she had an aneurism.
ReplyDeleteDon't tempt me, Harry.
DeleteI believe the traditional gift would be a lump of coal. Although that may have more value than I'd want to part with in a case like this.
ReplyDeleteI think a single charcoal briquette might work, if I wanted to acknowledge her. I think I might still get something for her husband--something she won't like and he won't share.
DeleteYep. My revenge on my parents is that my children will never know them. Ignore her and let her fade into the background noise.
ReplyDeleteI shall.
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