tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7529212130092758272.post5710175686672655598..comments2024-03-13T16:06:11.396-05:00Comments on the anti-soma: Role modelsHeroditus Huxleyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11049569750742829144noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7529212130092758272.post-52079957822328275802010-12-13T21:47:56.904-06:002010-12-13T21:47:56.904-06:00Mousie--I don't agree with all of the bits of ...Mousie--I don't agree with all of the bits of "wisdom" from the Notebooks in the literal sense; however, if you get your first "shot" off fast in a verbal duel, and it comes anywhere near the mark, it usually does what Heinlein suggests.<br /><br />I can't stand listening to my female friends and/or family members vent about the same problem, over and over, without even attempting to fix it. I'm rather like a guy in the way my brain works. I suppose that's why I have many more guy friends than girl friends.<br /><br />I found Heinlein in high school, right when I was looking for role models in how to be a happy, responsible, productive adult. I find it sad that I didn't have any in my immediate physical vicinity. Even now, I tend to turn to my mother-in-law for advice, help, understanding, and as a role model more than my own mother.<br /><br />OCM: No, you're not alone. Not everyone is cut out to be married, or in a long term relationship, just like not everyone is cut out for college. Doesn't mean that there's anything wrong with it, so long as you're not lonely--and from what I know of you, your critters keep you better company than most people.<br /><br />I just wish more people would learn that particular lesson about themselves.Heroditus Huxleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11049569750742829144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7529212130092758272.post-82244809377860045062010-12-13T09:17:27.077-06:002010-12-13T09:17:27.077-06:00AT 70, I can say that I have NEVER had a successf...AT 70, I can say that I have NEVER had a successful relationship (2 marriages and several significant others)--<br /><br />I am one of those humans where<br />'love' relations just don't work!<br /><br />Considering the divorce rate, I'm not alone.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7529212130092758272.post-81112081273034173482010-12-13T08:09:28.175-06:002010-12-13T08:09:28.175-06:00I don't always agree with Heinlein. Like gett...I don't always agree with Heinlein. Like getting off a first shot fast to rattle the opponent; I can't remember who said "You can't miss fast enough to win", but I'm with them.<br /><br />But I think you've picked winners here. I want and need to know if my wife's having a problem at her job; but I don't need to hear all the details about every speed bump in a job she loves.<br /><br />Most men don't get (even if they've been told) that women often want to vent rather than get help; most women don't get that men want to help so much that they feel bad if they can't help.AndrewVanbergenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14923434958244441857noreply@blogger.com